Why do I have a picture of a doormat for this post you ask? Well when I first saw the word dormant I read it as doormat. And if you’ll give me a little leaway, I will explain how they are connected. Ephesians 6:22-23 says “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church and he is the savior of the body.” Submit in this context does not mean to be under the absolute control of another, but to voluntarily placed yourself under the authority of another. God does not force us to be his children. He does not force us to believe on the Lord Jesus as our Savior and Lord. We are already his children, and we have free will to believe or not to believe.
When we as wives allow our husbands to abuse us, whether it is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritually; we become a doormat. (Or anyone who is in any kind of forced submission.). And our strength and dignity and beauty and wisdom and honor lie dormant.
Some of you may be screaming at the computer right now because I said “when we as wives allow…”. Looking back on my abusive relationships, I can say now that I’m on the other side, that I did allow it. I lost my power and my dignity and came to believe the things that were said and done to me were correct or somehow warranted. And because of that I say that I allowed it.
If any of you that are reading this post are in an abusive relationship, whether it be a spouse, a coach, a teacher, parent, or anyone else please listen to a heartfelt plea. You are beautiful. You are strong! You are due honor and dignity. You are smart, talented, and have amazing gifts. And you are loved by God above. The God of all gods. The great I AM! The creator of the universe!
Please find a safe person to confide in and let them throw you a lifeline. There is help. There is help that you probably have never thought of. There might be a friend just waiting for you to trust them.
You are beautiful. You are strong! You are due honor and dignity. You are smart, talented, and have amazing gifts. And you are loved by God above. The God of all gods. The great I AM! The creator of the universe!